Present : the crisis of American fatherhood and the power of showing up / Charles C. Daniels Jr., Ph.D.

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Present is an essential deep dive into absentee fatherhood, the obstacles and stigmas that exasperate it, the dads who want to reconnect with their children, and what it takes for families to start healing--from the co-founder of Fathers' UpLift

"Dr. Daniels, one of the nation's foremost experts on fatherhood and healthy families, has written a book that will help all of us show up for the fathers in our lives. Present is a clarion call."--Michael Wear

Young men of color want to be present for their children, but it takes more than a strong will to make that desire a reality. Charles C. Daniels Jr., PhD, a therapist and the co-founder and CEO of Fathers' UpLift, an organization that helps fathers reconnect with their kids, learned firsthand while serving primarily Black and Brown men that it's possible for fathers to overcome the significant challenges to establishing a relationship with their kids after weeks, months, or even years of separation.

Present is an honest look at the complexities that accompany separation and the sometimes grueling effort it takes to overcome those barriers. Drawing on therapeutic practice and the experiences of thousands, Daniels describes what it takes for fathers to parent themselves, for families to practice forgiveness, and for fathers and communities to create support structures so that dads can navigate life transitions, relate better to the whole family, and heal from their own woundedness.

Daniels details systemic obstacles that disadvantage fathers and societal stigmas that make healing relationships with children challenging. But he shows that they aren't the end of the story--it's still possible to reestablish familial bonds. For young men and those who support them, and for those who are interested in the struggles these men and their children face, Present is a book of challenge and of hope, filled with stories from Daniels's own life and the lives of the fathers he serves.

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Publishers Weekly Review

This sensitive debut guide from therapist Daniels encourages men to take active roles in their children's lives, noting studies that found children of absentee fathers are more likely to underperform in school and experience depression. Daniels's empathetic approach recognizes that absentee parents are often suffering from their own trauma, such as addiction, financial insecurity, incarceration, or childhood abuse. Case studies from Fathers' Uplift, a family counseling nonprofit founded by Daniels, illustrate strategies for healing. For instance, he recounts encouraging a teen father of two who spent over a year in juvenile detention to connect with his "inner child," which helped him better understand the needs and perspectives of his children while allowing him to work through the pain he carried from witnessing his own parents' nonstop fighting as a kid. Though Daniels includes a few practical suggestions, such as reciting affirmations to stay calm during stressful moments, the guidance largely focuses on self-forgiveness, as when he counsels readers to judge themselves not by their past missteps but by "how well we coexist with our mistakes and the lessons we applied from them." Compassionate and psychologically insightful, this is a must for fathers wondering how to better show up for their kids. Agent: Roger Freet, Folio Literary Management. (June)