No one talks about this stuff : twenty-two stories of almost parenthood / edited by Kat Brown.

By:

Brown, Kat [editor.]

Contributor(s):

Brown, Kat [editor.]

Material type: Text

text

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unmediated

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volume

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9781800182875
1800182872

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Summary: No One Talks About This Stuff is a support group for almost-parents. A place to share their journeys of loss and limbo, to confront social pressure and to find courage in the darkness of tragedies which happen every day yet are brushed under the carpet. So, we hear from a stepmother who wrestles with infertility. A husband and wife each tell their experience of losing their baby. A lesbian comes of age at a time when gay people rarely become parents. A father finds loss to be his unlikely superpower. Complex post-traumatic stress disorder impacts a person's choices about having a family. A black woman unpacks ancestral shame while finding renewed purpose. And each person shares how they lived through it. This captivatingly beautiful, profound and honest anthology opens a much-needed conversation about society, family and honoring the missing children we will never forget.

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Item type	Current library	Collection	Shelving location	Call number	Status	Notes	Date due	Barcode	Item holds
Adult Book	Phillipsburg Free Public Library	Adult Non-Fiction	New Books	808 BRO	Available	pap ed.		36748002564690

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Enhanced descriptions from Syndetics:

A profound and honest anthology in which twenty-two writers share everyday experiences from their pursuit of parenthood.

No One Talks About This Stuff is a support group for almost-parents: it is a place to share journeys of loss and limbo, to confront social pressure and to find courage in the darkness of tragedies which happen every day yet are brushed under the carpet.

So, we hear from a stepmother who wrestles with infertility. A husband and wife each tell their experience of losing their baby. A lesbian comes of age at a time when gay people rarely become parents. A father finds loss to be his unlikely superpower. Complex post-traumatic stress disorder impacts a person's choices about having a family. A black woman unpacks ancestral shame while finding renewed purpose. And each person shares how they lived through it.

This captivatingly beautiful, profound and honest anthology opens a much-needed conversation about society, family and honouring the missing children we will never forget.

Includes bibliographical references and index.

No One Talks About This Stuff is a support group for almost-parents. A place to share their journeys of loss and limbo, to confront social pressure and to find courage in the darkness of tragedies which happen every day yet are brushed under the carpet. So, we hear from a stepmother who wrestles with infertility. A husband and wife each tell their experience of losing their baby. A lesbian comes of age at a time when gay people rarely become parents. A father finds loss to be his unlikely superpower. Complex post-traumatic stress disorder impacts a person's choices about having a family. A black woman unpacks ancestral shame while finding renewed purpose. And each person shares how they lived through it. This captivatingly beautiful, profound and honest anthology opens a much-needed conversation about society, family and honoring the missing children we will never forget.

Table of contents provided by Syndetics

Introduction (xi)
Disenfranchised Grief
The Story Which Does Not Have an End (3)
Pronatalism and Me: Waking up from the Trance of Motherhood (14)
A 'nearly Life' (24)
The Unspoken Trauma of Almost-Motherhood (29)
Small, Soft, Grey Pig (38)
Society
A Historical Perspective on Women Without Children (47)
The Silence of Shame (57)
Grief is Not a Competition (71)
'Other People' Problems (79)
Choice
Elodie (89)
Flashbacks and Tricycles: Chosen Childlessness and Trauma Disorders (102)
Decisions (117)
'Happy Ending' (124)
Parenting
Self-Portrait, Pregnant (137)
The Baby-Loss Diaries (153)
Loss as a Superpower (173)
The Baby-Loss Diaries (181)
Living
Eshet Chayil (197)
Work in Progress (209)
Notes From Here (219)
Imogen and Delilah (234)
Hard Glad (246)
Resources (257)
Acknowledgements (263)
Trigger Index (269)
Remembering Our Children (271)
Supporters (275)

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Publishers Weekly Review

These intimate personal reflections, collected by journalist Brown (It's Not a Bloody Trend), probe the complicated emotions that follow miscarriages, terminated pregnancies, and learning one can't have a biological child. Jody Day recounts struggling to conceive despite having no discernible medical impediment and feeling like "a failed woman" until her mid-40s, when she started a blog about the experience, around which coalesced a supportive community of women who were "childless-by-circumstance." Other entries explore the reasons women choose to end a pregnancy, with Hilary Freeman offering a plaintive account of deciding not to carry her baby to term after discovering it had a rare genetic condition that would have made its life short and painful. Elsewhere, Miranda Ward meditates on maintaining her "capacity for hope" after four miscarriages and an ectopic pregnancy, and Rageshri Dhairyawan recalls burying herself in her work to distract herself from the grief she felt after learning she wouldn't be able to conceive by IVF. The heartrending stories capture the sorrow and despair that accompany unsuccessful attempts to have children, even as they illuminate the many roads to acceptance after pain. Readers will want to keep tissues at the ready. (July)